I dont have any of it.
Like none.
It’s not like my life is terribly busy, but it’s also not like I have all kinds of free time either. I feel like my day just goes and by the time I sit down to do something that is not busywork it’s way late or im doing it instead of something more important. Like cooking dinner, bathing a child, changing a diaper, folding laundry, telling the kids to stop hitting each other for the 90th time in the last hour. You know, all the good stuff.
Ever since The Girl started kindergarten I feel like I have even less time. Today I paid attention and figured out why.
Monday, Tuesday, Thursday and Friday go something like this: I feed them lunch at 11am. They get done at around 11:45 because they are the slowest eaters on the planet (read: they play with their food and don’t sit still, etc) that gives me 20 minutes to get her ready to go.
I have to brush her hair (which she has ‘already done’ the 7 times I asked her to do it), Round up shoes, socks, her school uniforms, her backpack, snack and water. That gets done in 20 minutes if im lucky. She has to be to school at 12:15pm. We try to leave the house at 12:05. That means lugging the 25 pound 6month old/carseat combo down the stairs, turning around 9 times to tell The Boy to hurry the hell up, getting to the car and getting everyone in the car 5.5 million hours later.
The school is 3 minutes away asuming the one traffic light is green or halfway done being red by the time I get to it. We usually get to the school at 12:16. I used to walk her in because that is what the moms who arent screwing up this parenting gig other moms do. But I noticed that none of them have 3 kids to lug around so, now I just drop her off at the gate. It makes her happier anyway. All that independence and whatnot.
So after I’m done with the 4 speedbumps I am sure will destroy my car before the school year is over and we are on our way out of the school it’s probably 12:20. We get back into the house at 12:30, give or take.
That’s 45 minutes from liftoff to landing.
Then there is the picking her up from school part. The part where I leave the house at 3:25, ten minutes early, again, 6 minutes later were on our way to the school. We get there, I drive over the horrid speedbumps again, searching for a place to park. I get out, get the stroller out (because my arm would break off if I had to carry her for 10 minutes, really), put her in it, get The Boy out and were on our way, slowly, to pick her up. Wading through the ocean of children, bicycles, strollers, scooters, skateboards, and everything else to get to the classroom. 10 more minutes later were back at the car. Loading everything into it to go home.
That was 45 more minutes of time I spent picking her up from school.
I spend an hour and a half of my time, 5 days a week, just on pick-ups and drop-offs.
I’m not complaining really. Okay maybe a tiny bit. But not about the fact that I have to do it. Just that it takes THAT much time. It is one major time sink in my day.
I feel like lately I get nothing done. The laundry never stops. I’m always doing it, it’s never done. Something always needs to be done and the only way it will get done is if I do it. The kids rooms? Not clean, ever.
Somehow I always find time to cook an exciting from scratch meal, every night. I probably could use the time I would have if I made simpler dinners to fold the laundry, because that is normally the time I remember to fold it.
I’d really love to take a shower every day. I’m not talking just water and soap. I want a shower, hair done, makeup on, not looking like i just woke up and put my hair up kind of shower.
I know, I’ve heard that if I really wanted to I could, but, here’s the thing. Most people who say that, dont have 3 smaller kids. Here, let me explain it to you…
For this to work I would have to have all 3 kids either being monitored or asleep. I cant monitor them while I take a shower and by the time He is home to monitor them I’m busy cooking, bathing them, etc. So, they’d have to all take a nap at the same time. Or two of them would have to take a nap while The Girl is at school. Let me tell you how often that happens.
Never.
Sometimes it does. And I’ll totally seize the opportunity if it happens to be that the baby is the one not taking her nap. Because there are places I can put her where she is ‘monitored’ long enough for me to take a shower. But taking a shower with either of the other two running rampant is just a bad idea. Sure, I could take a shower everyday if I didnt really care if they got into everything. If I wanted to spend 2 hours undoing the messes they would make in the 10 minutes it would take for me to shower. But I don’t. I like my house clean. I like my children monitored. So my daily hygeine suffers. So my hair looks like something you’d use to mop your floor with.
SIGH
I have to stop, I could really keep typing things that dont make sense for another hour or so, really.